An Astrological View of Happily Ever After

As an astrologer, people come to see me for many different reasons.  Sometimes there is a crisis or event that has prompted them to seek a wider and deeper perspective.  Sometimes it is a feeling of being stuck with a need to find hope for change ahead.  Others seek another perspective as confirmation of what they have already been feeling or may be motivated by a host of other reasons.

Most people, however, are looking for the “good news” (their definition, of course).  What reality presents us in life can be so challenging to our carefully designed lives that it is easy to label any change as “bad.”  What I offer is a different perspective that looks at every part of our life as beneficial for our soul’s journey to wholeness.

In a recent session with a client, I found myself making the statement:  “Happily ever after is not good for your evolution.”  She was stunned and I was a bit surprised myself.  I know this comment was the result of experiences in my own life and how every challenge has also given me a gift.

We were discussing her search for the idea of great happiness and the end of pain, like what is supposed to follow after Prince Charming sweeps you off your feet.  It would be absolutely delightful...for a while, but think about it!  Wouldn’t it be boring if your significant other always said “yes, dear, whatever you like dear”?

It is because of the differences and the challenges they produce that we grow and evolve our understanding of who we are and what matters to us.  A good relationship offers just enough challenges and differences of perspective to require us to open our minds and hearts, and encourages us to grow and change.

By holding this perspective, we keep an open mind and heart and minimize the pain that often comes from holding onto the past when something new is being called for in the present.  It is what we resist that brings us pain.

If you find yourself seeking a “happily ever after” solution to your problems...think again.  It is in embracing change that brings new awareness that produces ever evolving joy in life.