Self-Doubt

Dianne Eppler Adams, Astrologer/Writer

Dianne Eppler Adams

Bringing Spirit into Everyday Life

By Dianne Eppler Adams, CAP

Self-Doubt, A Form of Abuse

On the road to happiness and a fulfilling life, you will have to slay the demon of self-doubt. Why? It is clearly a form of self-abuse.

We have all suffered under self-doubt. Those nagging thoughts - "you are not good enough, you can't do that, you are not smart enough, wise enough, attractive enough...on and on and on" - abuse your sense of self-worth and well-being.

The origin of this abuse lies within the voices we hear in our early years. Often due to their insecurities, parents and early authority figures words caused us to question our own instincts and made us believe what we desired was not possible.

It is as simple as someone having made an idle comment that stuck with us and colored our experience of our self from then on. In my case, it was a teacher who said I had no artistic ability. For over 20 years, I doubted my creative ability, until I woke up to that being untrue.

What example can you find in your own life? Perhaps an over cautious Mother convinced you that you were not physically capable of being athletically competitive. The possibilities are endless.

They didn't mean to abuse you, of course. They were merely operating out of their own fears and limitations.

But the self-doubt that you continue to hold inside is clearly a form of ongoing self-abuse. It prevents you from ever trying to reach your goals; stops you from believing that you deserve to be happy and fulfilled.

Ironically, some of the most compassionate and caring people toward others can be the harshest critic of themselves.

If you are willing to encourage and be supportive of others, why not start with yourself? Become you own cheerleader! Turn around those nagging doubts by replacing them with positive affirmations.

While you are at it, you can do yourself a favor by surrounding yourself with friends who believe in you and offer encouragement. Any one you associate with who doesn't see the best in you is only adding to your self-abuse. Change your friends, if need be.

Most of all, be an encouraging friend to yourself by putting an end to abuse from self-doubting thoughts.

(Not astrology based.)

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Fri Mar 7, 12:14 pm ET - NEW MOON at 18 Pisces, Mars in Cancer opposes Pluto in Capricorn

Surprising events this NEW MOON may come in the form of a dream. Watch out for resistance from others. You may be feeling vulnerable.

If you wish upon the New Moon (within 3 days before or after), you have the possibility of fulfillment by the time of the Full Moon. Pisces New Moon wishes relate to: imagination, inner happiness, psychic sensitivity, trust/mystic awareness, spiritual healing, compassion, and releasing helplessness.

Sat Mar 8 - Sun in Pisces conjoins Uranus

Plans don't go as expected. Expect the unexpected.

Sun Mar 9 - Mercury in Aquarius conjoins Neptune

Permission to dream is yours today. Record you inspirations.

Thu Mar 13 - Venus in Pisces sextiles Pluto in Capricorn

Transform your routines into creative opportunities.

Fri Mar 14 - Mars in Cancer sextiles Saturn in Virgo

A very productive day ends the week with a feeling of accomplishment.

Sat Mar 15 - Venus in Pisces opposes Saturn in Virgo

If relationship tension arises, remember you may need patience to understand others.

Sun Mar 16 - Venus in Pisces trines Mars in Cancer

Any tension from yesterday could vanish in feelings of closeness today.

Mon Mar 17 - Mercury in Pisces opposes Saturn in Virgo

Ideas find opposition when we think we are right. What can you learn from others?

Fri Mar 21, 2:40 pm ET - FULL MOON at 2 Libra, Sun in Aries squares Pluto in Capricorn

The FULL MOON speaks of balancing solitude with socializing. Neglect neither.

Thu Mar 27 - Mercury in Pisces conjoins Uranus

Be sure to record your flashes of insight likely today. Some really original thinking is possible.

Fri Mar 28 - Venus in Pisces conjoins Uranus while it's sextile Jupiter in Capricorn

Widen your world by seeking out unique people and unusual activities.

Thu Apr 3 - Mercury in Aries squares Pluto in Capricorn

New ideas and plans come into conflict with rules and traditions.

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